Conversations for Critical Times
What happens if you suspect that your teen is already using alcohol and drugs? What do you say to
them? The conversation is the same: parents need to tell their kids that drug and alcohol use by
teens is not allowed in your family. The issue won't go away until you do something. You will simply have
to acknowledge that your teen has a problem — your teen is using drugs and that won't get any better
until you take action on your teen's behalf. It is OK to ask for help. In fact, getting help may make it
easier for you to have the conversation.
Practice the conversation ahead of time. You may have to have a couple of “practice runs.” These conversations
are not easy but they are worthwhile. Talking it over with your spouse/partner beforehand will help you keep a level
head and speak to the issue. (Review some key talking points and practice these sample conversations beforehand.)
Make Agreements with Yourself
Tell yourself that you won’t “lose it” with your teen. Anger and hostility won’t get you anywhere in this conversation. Stay as calm as possible.
Remember, you are the parent and you are in charge. Be kind, simple, and direct in your statements to your teen. Above all, remember to tell your
teen that you love him or her! The conversation will not be perfect — no conversation ever is. Know that you are doing the right thing for your
teen. That’s what matters most! |
